“Can I come over to your house to play with Cam?” Those are
words I honestly have hoped for so long to hear but truly never thought I
would. Not because I don’t think my son is absolutely amazing because I do. But
because my son doesn’t know how to be a good friend, though in his own ways
he tries so hard to be. He knows how to play what he wants to play and if you
don’t want to play that game or with those toys he doesn’t understand how to
handle it. He usually shuts down or cries because he takes it personal. His
play dates in the past have always been because I have been friends with the
moms and have scheduled them. They have always been what felt like a forced
play date. Not that these children didn’t play with him because they always
have, but if I and the other moms were honest with ourselves it wasn’t because
the other children actually asked to play with Cam. They were never because a child has actually asked to play with him…never been because a child
actually wants to play with him. And I understand it all. Cam does not make it
easy…he doesn’t make it easy to be his friend. He doesn’t understand
friendship…yet.
BUT and here’s where the tears start flowing…I heard those
words. A little boy from Cam’s class came up to me at parent pick up and asked
if he could have Cam come over to play or if he could please come to our house
to play with Cam. I tried not to act surprised and play it off like this always
happens. But, I was in complete shock and can’t even begin to describe how
happy I was. You should have seen Cam’s face all lit up with a smile from ear
to ear and begging that I let it happen that very second. Of course I couldn’t
let it happen that very second but I agreed with Cam that I wanted it to. I
wanted that smile, that glow to stay on my sons face forever. So, I told the
little boy that I would talk to his mom and we would make it happen. We walked
to the car and Cam was so excited and I was thankful to have sunglasses on
because the tears were flowing. MY son….MY world…has a friend! The things
that most parents take for granted….this is one of them. As a mom to a child
with Autism this is a day that I never thought would happen.
I watched the next day at pick up as Cam scrambled to get
his folder and things ready to go home in the classroom and this little boy…this friend of Cam’s stayed and
helped him gather everything. More tears…thank goodness for sunglasses! They
walked out together and said bye to each other and the little boy reminded me
that he still really wanted to play with Cam. Seriously…I wasn’t dreaming! This
is a reality for my son! That same day I received a message from this little
boys mom telling me that her son was talking and begging to play with Cam.
Really! I know I sound like I am so shocked that someone wants to play with Cam
but I promise you I know how AMAZING my son. But as I have said I also know he
doesn’t make it easy to be his friend. So, we have scheduled the play date for
this weekend and both boys are so excited. They are already planning what they
are going to do while he is at our house playing. I have to admit, I rearranged
Cam’s room to make it more special for Cam and I have already planned in my
head some snacks and to order pizza. I know how special this is for Cam, so I
want to make it as great of a time as I can.
I am not sure who is more excited for Cam…him or me. But, I can
tell you that this is a huge step for him. One that I am so proud of! We have
waited what feels like forever for this day to come. My son is in second grade
and he has a friend. Wow….that sentence brings so much pride to my heart.