Have you ever went back from your child’s original diagnosis
and read all of the evaluations, different doctor’s papers, etc? If not I
highly recommend it. Not because I think looking back in life is always the
best option, but when it comes to this I think sometimes it is. I did this the
other day for the first time and though my intention wasn’t to read it all, I
was actually just looking for a specific date of something for one of Cam’s
papers I was filling out, but instead I found the answer and a whole lot more.
I started from the original diagnosis letter, September 9,
2010…the day that our life changed forever. Reading this diagnosis brought me
back to that day. I had fought with everyone that something was different,
unique about Cam but others thought I was either crazy or just an
overprotective first time mom. But, as you moms know our mother’s instinct is
something not to be reckoned with. So, on September 9 we went to have the
psychiatrist that we were referred to, to have Cam officially evaluated. Within
minutes the psychiatrist saw all of the signs for a diagnosis but he continued
for the next hour or so to evaluate and test Cam and go over our concerns. Then
he looked up and said, “your son has a form of Autism called Asperger’s and he
also has Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder and in better terms he is a
child with high functioning Autism.” I sat there with tears in my eyes and my
husband sat there stunned. The doctor looked at me and said and I will never
forget it “I can tell you are crying because you knew. You knew the diagnosis
before I even said it.” Yes, reading that letter brought me back to that day
and again I sat there and cried. Almost three years ago and it still hits me
like it was yesterday. Now you’re probably thinking “why the hell are you
telling me to go back and read all of this if it caused you pain and to cry?”
It’s because I didn’t stop reading there and that’s where light was shined on
my tears.
I then went through reading more doctor’s visits and
evaluations because you know the first diagnosis isn’t where you stop. You have
to hear it from many other specialists and doctors, not just for yourself but
also for all of the others who continue to tell you that you are wrong, that
the doctors are wrong and that he is just fine. So, we did all of that and
funny enough every doctor came to the same diagnosis. Then after all of that I
read the beginning evaluations from the different therapists and read his
goals. I kept reading through the past three years all of these evaluations,
these goals and also the new diagnoses that come along with your child on the
spectrum. Because you know Autism alone just isn’t enough, there has to be other
issues, like sensory processing disorder, ADHD, OCD, etc. You name it and you
found out that your child not only has Autism but he has all of these other diagnoses
too. Which are all common for children on the spectrum but you didn’t know that
until your child was actually diagnosed on the spectrum. But, I continue to
read and yes this took quite a few hours because Cam’s chart is huge, as I am
sure all of you who have children on the spectrum can relate because you all
have that same chart or charts. And through it I cried many, many tears. BUT at
the end of it….when I was at my last page I closed it and realized just how far
Cam has come in these almost three years. I realized how far we as a family
have come because of Cam in these almost three years. He has achieved goals
that I never thought were possible for him. He has achieved goals that doctors
and therapists never thought he could achieve. He has changed people’s views on
life with Autism and he has made people stop and smell the Autism roses. So
through all of these battles or struggles with him, with doctors, with
insurance companies, with schools, with family….he has still come so incredibly
far. We have all come so incredibly far. Some days in the beginning I felt like
the diagnosis was like a death sentence because the life that we had envisioned
for not just Cam but for us as a family died that day. But it wasn’t a death
sentence at all….it was a new beginning. We as a family are stronger than we
ever could imagine, Cam is making amazing strides in areas we never thought possible and all of us are learning our life with Autism.
So, I say to you…take the time to read all of your child’s
chart and give yourself a pat on the back. Without you, your child would not be
as far as they are…without you, your child would still be where he or she was
when they were first diagnosed. But, they’re not….they are making progress
because of you. Give your child a pat on the back for helping you see life
through different eyes and give them a pat on the back for making all of that
progress. I know I went in and hugged Cam and told him how proud I was of him
and how very much I loved him. Of course he had no idea why and probably
thought I was crazy because I did all of this with huge tears in my eyes, but
he needed to hear it…I needed to tell him. I think some days are so hard that
we forget as Autism parents to look at how far we’ve come and how strong we are
because we fight battles others could never imagine, we deal with things on a
daily basis that most will never understand….yet we get back up and continue to
fight, continue to do all of this and more. So please take the time to pat
yourself on the back and tell yourself how amazingly strong you are and
remember sometimes looking back with your incredible Autism child is ok because
it reminds you how far you’ve come.
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