Today I was brought back to remembering the day of Cam’s
diagnosis. It is hard to believe that it was a little over 3 years ago now
because as I sat thinking about it today it was like it was just yesterday that
it all happened. I remember sitting in the waiting room for the psychologist
with complete knots in my stomach. He walked up and introduced himself to us
and to Cam and I sat there watching my son who could care less about this man,
this stranger standing there in front of us. Cam was more concerned about his
dinosaur puzzles. We walked into the room and the psychologist for the first
few minutes just observed Cam, then did some testing with him and then turned
to my husband and me and asked lots of questions. It was honestly the longest
visit of my life yet the shortest. At the end of it all he looked at us and
said, “your son has Asperger’s and ADHD”. I started crying, bawling, I couldn’t
catch my breath. The doctor looked at me and said “I can tell by your tears you
already knew what I was going to say”. And he was right, I did. I had fought
against others who told me I was crazy that there was nothing wrong with my
son, I had tried everything I could imagine to get him help prior to bringing
him there. But, I did know that when we walked into the office that day I was going
to hear those words. That fact didn’t make hearing those words any easier, to
be honest I believe it made it harder. Had I known yet been in denial all this
time? Had I done all I could to help him or should I have done more? The what
ifs, the could ofs and should ofs…they started creeping in and the tears flowed
harder all the way home. The life that I had envisioned for my son was no
longer there. Of course I had already seen some of this life I had so wanted
for him start to disappear before the diagnosis. We tried team sports for him
like t-ball and soccer and those were both an epic fail. We had already lost
some friends because who wants to have play dates with a child who melts down
at the drop of a hat? Who wants to go out in public with a family who has a
child that appears out of control or that says what seems to say rude things?
So, even before the diagnosis our lives had changed but there was still that
ounce of hope. Maybe the doctor will tell us this is all normal. Maybe he will
tell us the others were right he will outgrow this…maybe we will be invited to
those play dates once he outgrows it. Then BAM! the diagnosis comes and I
realized that those maybes will never come true.
At the age of 4 Cameron was diagnosed with Asperger's and ADHD. After his diagnosis I wanted to find other mom's out there going through some of the same struggles because at that time I felt very alone. Reading other moms stories helped me know I wasn't alone and inspired me to share our journey in life with Cameron. I hope to help others on a similar journey know they're not alone. I am here to share the good, the bad, the ugly and the pretty freaking amazing.
Friday, February 7, 2014
Remembering.....
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